I have been reading two amazing books on the subject of Change and wanted to share with you, some interesting excerpts from these books; enjoy!


  • “The most common place to get stuck on the road to change is ambivalence.
  • Arguments both for and against change already reside within the ambivalent person.
  • People are the undisputed experts on themselves. No one has been with them longer, or knows them better than they do themselves.

Keys to Acceptance:

  • First, acceptance involves prizing the inherent worth and potential of every human being. When people experience themselves as unacceptable they are immobilized. Their ability to change is diminished or blocked. When, on the other hand, people experience being accepted as they are, they are freed to change.
  • A second key: Accurate empathy, an active interest in and effort to understand the other’s internal perspective, to see the world through her or his eyes. (Not sympathy or identification)
  • A third key: acceptance involves honouring and respecting each other’s autonomy, their irrevocable right and capacity of self-direction.”

Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change By William R. Miller, Stephen Rollnick, 2013 The Guilford Press, NY ; p.  6-7, 15


  • “Directly acknowledging a person’s freedom of choice typically diminishes defensiveness and can facilitate change. This involves letting go of the idea and burden that you have to (or can) make people change. It is, in essence, relinquishing a power that you never had in the first place.
  • Acceptance as we understand it involves affirmation, to seek and acknowledge the person’s strengths and efforts.
  • People already have within them much of what is need, and your task is to evoke it, to call it forth.
  • Once people resolved their ambivalence about change, they went ahead and did it (changed) on their own without additional professional assistance or permission.
  • We cannot revoke people’s choice about their own behaviour. People make their own decisions about what they will and will not do, and it’s not a change goal until the person adopts it.”

Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change By William R. Miller, Stephen Rollnick, 2013 The Guilford Press, NY ; p. 17-19,21




“People will change when they are ready to take steps towards change.”

― Jessica McEachern, Societal Perceptions, p.212. : 2015 ISBN 0692407847, 9780692407844

Stay blessed,

Pr. Paddick Van Zyl – LDMI

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