Caring in love

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It’s been a year & a half since Mom went to be with Jesus. I don’t begrudge her heaven, but the process of getting her there was a beast. Likewise, the process of my recovery from caregiving has been harder than expected. Two-and-a-half years of caring for Mom full time took a toll on my health. Some of my relationships suffered. I faded into the background at church. I got out of healthy routines. Many days it seemed like life was passing me by. I felt left out, left behind & alone. I also felt incredibly old. Mom’s death wasn’t the end of my caring for her, either. In the months that followed I planned two memorial services in two different states. I paid her remaining bills and taxes, closed and settled accounts, & notified friends & family of the news. I went through all of her things, purged & distributed most, & kept a few. In the midst of all of this necessary activity, I grieved. I grieved haltingly & imperfectly. In stops and starts, with laughter & weeping. Sometimes with others, but often alone. For a while, I wondered if I should have done things differently. Had I made a few tweaks in caregiving and grieving, would things have been easier? Could I have headed some of the hardship off at the pass? These are unproductive questions. Mom’s now happy and whole, & I’ve had more time & distance to process & heal. I’m serving again at church. I’m sleeping (and occasionally sleeping in!) again. I’m reconnecting with friends & repairing relationships with family. I’m living life today & planning for the future. And I have no regrets. My caregiving season was unspeakably hard, but so worth it. I’m a changed person – a softer-hearted & more mature person. I have memories with Mom I’ll never forget. I learned lessons I would not have learned otherwise. Don’t assume that you can’t be a caregiver because you can’t do it perfectly. You’ll never do it perfectly; believe me, I tried. Caregiving is about showing up. It’s about setting aside a season for service & selflessness. It’s a holy calling. And eventually – perhaps when the season’s over – you’ll feel the weight of the privilege you were given. And you’ll thank God for it. -by @andersonlisac

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Exodus 20:12 AMP

Honor (respect, obey, care for) yourfatherandyourmother, so that your days may be prolonged in the land the Lordyour God gives you.”

Matthew 25:44-45 TLB

44 “Then they will reply, ‘Lord, when did we ever see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or naked or sick or in prison, and not help you?’

45 “And I will answer, ‘When you refused to help the least of these my brothers, you were refusing help to me.’”

Stay blessed in serving

Pr Paddick van Zyl

LDMI

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